Discover Yourself and Learn to Be You
Being “ME” – Being “YOU” – Being “Real” Matters
The moment I have finally let go of worry and uncertainty about being me, my eyes opened up to a whole new world around me. I saw and welcomed the beauty and the treasures I carry within me. Allow yourself to look deep within you and you will discover your treasures too.
“Who am I?”, “What makes me – ME?”, “What do I really want?” These are some of the questions we often don’t ask ourselves (but we should) because we think it doesn’t matter, or we place the importance of others first. But it does matter! It matters to me, and yours should matter to you. It should matter to the people we invite and keep in our lives.
You have a choice in the people you share your life with. Don’t waste your life on people who put you down or make you feel like you’re not good enough. Walk away from those who can’t accept you for who you are, and disrespect you or your decisions. Don’t allow someone make you feel that you less than them or that you’re not good enough. If this hasn’t crossed your mind before, or it has but you pushed these thoughts aside, look within you and allow yourself to find the inner “You”. When you do, tell yourself that, what you think and feel does matter – You matter.
Allow Your Self to Feel
Acknowledge Your Feelings
My feelings – are mine to feel. Not when it’s okay to feel them, not when someone wants me to feel them, but when I feel them from within. All of the emotions that I go through are part of what makes me – me. They are my history and my present. When I feel good and happy I smile and laugh. I cry the tears or joy or pain when each of the feelings comes over me. When someone hurts me or I find my self feeling unhappy I get sad. It’s normal to have feelings. Just like everybody else I get angry, disappointed, and upset – that’s when I try not to yell, (it doesn’t solve anything), and I try to control the expressions on my face – some of them cause wrinkles (not a desirable side effect).
Show Your True Feelings
I don’t believe in pretending to feel something when I do not. There is nothing wrong with showing what we’re really feeling, but it’s not always easy to do. It was only a couple of years ago when I started to stand up for my self and only recently have I started being expressive with what I really feel. There are many reasons why we hide our feelings.
When you hide your feelings – you’re hurting yourself
Sometimes we keep our feelings to ourselves because of our upbringing as children; maybe someone told us that it wasn’t acceptable to feel what we felt, or that it was a sign of weakness to show what we are feeling. It’s not, in fact, only someone who’s confident and believes in themselves has the ability to be strong enough to share their feelings. Other times we hide our feelings because we feel uncertain or insecure with our selves. We feel embarrassed to admit or show how we feel, we fear that we will be laughed at because of what we feel, and very often we worry about not being accepted for who we are, or because of how we feel.
If there are people in your life who make you feel this way, remind yourself that: your feelings are yours to feel, and the people who can’t accept you the way you are -have no place in your life. There are plenty of people in the world that will accept you just as you are with all the feelings that you have.
Keeping your feelings within you hurts you. Over time it makes you forget who you really are and what truly matters to you. You stop being you because you “modify” your feelings based on the preferences of others. When this happens, instead of living – you start existing.
Your Inner Voice – What are You really thinking?
I have finally found my inner voice! It’s been lost in silence for so long that I feel like I have opened the door to a whole new dimension. There is so much to learn from, explore and to share with those of you who wants to be on this new adventure with me. Everyone is welcome! But that’s not all, I’m here to tell you that you can hear your inner voice too! All you have to do is start listening to your true thoughts coming from deep within you. It’s the voice we usually silence, and only express or share with very few or no one at all. Your Best Friends Place is one of the places that you can share your inner voice if and when you want to.
Listen to your thoughts. What do you hear when your deepest thoughts come to the surface? If you open up your mind, it might take you places you had no idea exists. Just like your feelings, your thoughts are your own. Don’t change what you think just because your thoughts are different from others. I believe everyone has a right to their opinion and is free to express what’s on their mind, but I also think that there is never a good reason to choose to hurt another by expressing your thoughts or opinions.
Your Best Friend,
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